Wednesday, 31 May 2017

Self love is not a trend , get your IAGBAM ON NOW

Ok Ok , I am seeing over the past 2 years so much talk about self love. AWESOME . However , when I sit and talk with people and when I feel people in my space- and I don't mean touch them  , I can feel how people feel ( some call it empath some call it energetically aware, it's not always a blessings btw)  people are not feeling actual SELF LOVE - many the opposite, so when you feel that that can really throw a dampener on your day /dinner party /get together.

How do we get it ? I know I gave out my mantra  IAGBAM and over the past 2 years many have got it. My intention was that I wanted EVERYONE to feel it. And it is very hard at times to maintain it.

Firstly it does not come because you feel some one else loves you , and so you feel all squishy love - that would be "other love" or "another love" not self love. Also when some one else loves you we feel obliged to do something for that love , when you love yourself you just have  love .

Buying ourselves something and feeling good, whether it is food or a thing, it's a nice feeling and it is comes more under the "self care" of "self worth" category . Now this is also a great experience but once again it is not self love. And it is still looking for something outside of YOU .

I have found that this year has been difficult to navigate and even the great Violetnight super woman has had moments of spilling the self love cup and needing to find a way to refill it. I could go on and on with all my personal little trials and tribulations, then I might as well have my own reality tv show "Keeping up with catastrophies " lol . That's time consuming and every week you have to watch it , and when we watch others falling over it actually just keeps that experience in our soul looping. AND I want us all to get it NOW not in a season of tv time later lol.

I had stated in my blog BAM about ancient wisdom about the ceremony I  experienced.  I woud love  for everyone to do it. However right now I don't know anyone who does it except me  and I live in a little flat , so there ain't going to be no labrynth happening in my space this week . I really want this to kick in for everyone ASAP .

So here is the most simple and easy way to do it . Turn off your tv, put your phone on silent and preferably play some very relaxing music there you go you don't even have to look for it...sorry there is a skip add at the start. ANYWAYS, put the music on , make sure no one else in the house can disturb you .

 Breathe deeply in through your nose and slowly release through your mouth

Repeat this at least 3 times , until you are relaxing or at least just focusing on the breath.

Put your hands on your heart .

Now say "I LOVE YOU" , to you !

Repeat this as many times as you can .

Then say " I AM A Goddess Beautiful And Magnificent" for a few minutes.

Really feel it as you say it and I hope for you that you feel a shift in how you feel.

You may either feel joyous or be crying after a few times. What ever arises love that and keep the self love cup filling up . .

It is a super simple exercise , and super important as we live in this now with constant bombardment of news, "social" media and distractions. The Dali Lama will tell you life can be simple, we have made it difficult and many sayings we have grown up with were devised to bring us down "life wasn't meant to be easy " blah blah ...yes it was and it is and it can be , when we get back to loving ourselves

You can also amplify this by doing it in nature.
You can do it in your car , the shower where ever and when ever you need to .

You are truely beautiful and magnificent , be kind to yourself , love yourself , after all you spend the most time with you :D You are loved by the devine creator , the angels and ascended masters- and you are a part of them - so love yourself .

Friday, 31 March 2017

A hinterland best kept secret, Lismore

My blogs are always linked to self love, which shopping has alot to do with . However right now , this blog is about giving some love to a town that is defiantly going to need some back.
Hidden amongst the mountains an hour away from one of the most popular Aussie destinations over the past decade (Byron Bay) is a sweet little town that has such a diversity of things to offer from  a regional country town . Lismore

When I was growing up , it was just a place on the map I had never been to. In more recent times it is a town I love to visit and experience the diversity . And as of today it is going to need visitors , support and love.

In the northern rivers region tucked between beautiful valleys along side the Richmond River, Lismore has been an integral part of the district for over 150 years.. The first time I passed through it I saw it as a very typical country town with you beaut utes , a big pub on the corner and the standard shops , I was with a dear friend and didn't give it much attention.

However having spent many days there, on the way to my friend's house , I have found a delightful cacophony of unique shops, wonderful art and amazing food. For me the big star is the Star Arcade. Once upon at time it was a beautiful theatre, and is often the case developers tugged and pulled it into a different shape. Usually this means they destroyed it. Not so in Lismore.

Strolling down there is a variety of great shops. The funky barber with the beautifully fitted out 50's memorabilia . The stunning Erika with beautiful fashion , natural fibres and the eye catching chandelier when you walk in. Opposite is Mis Mildred's . A selection of beautiful handmade clothes from vintage style fabrics , on Sundays there is a knitting group sharing time together food and I was stoked to see a young male in there learning the skills that to my mothers' dismay I never acquired (she was a highly skilled knitter btw). As you keep wandering more fabulous women running their own businesses.

When shopping everyone needs a cake break. You will find a wonderful shop fitted out to perfection . When I stopped in they were so friendly,  and I love the fact the the husband of Miss Mildred's was telling me to go and see her fabulous shop . Opposite a young teacher sells her art and fabulous Japanese style fashion for the funky and fabulous. You can also get a massage in the arcade too.

A wonderful full vegetarian cafe selling charcoal noodles, raw cheesecake and all sorts of wonderful food, Is another highlight . If that is not enough for you towards the end of the arcade you can find another fabulous seamstress making fab outfits from vintage fabrics, I spotted a few classic Australiana tea towels turned into beautiful skirts. She made clothes up to a size 20 as well .

To cap it off was a funky little shop selling all the best in leopard print skirts, lace and other things for those of us with an lean towards the alternative or for those looking for great stuff for a fun party.

Now this is just one little arcade in Lismore. If you have a stroll around you will find beautiful homewares, high class fashion and more funky cafe's and food that would be more likely to be seen on the streets of Melbourne or Sydney.

Now as semi local I am not going to give you all the addresses for the fab op shops , I have to have some secrets but I would like to say that if you are planning a trip to the Northern Rivers and think that Byron is the main attraction , take a drive and hour inland, the scenery is beautiful and see Lismore. There are art galleries and beautiful buildings to admire, fro the late 1800's - you don't get that in Byron .

On my travels between Victoria and New South wales every stop we made the country towns did not fail to impress me time and time again with their unique and interesting history , beautiful buildings and often very funky shops. Take a moment more out of your busy holiday time and actual sit in a small town for a minute, it might teach you something, it might delight you and I bet you it will surprise you.

On the 30th of March they have had a huge flood, so give them a week to mop up and then go for a drive and support a great community of diversity and talent.

Monday, 2 January 2017

Oh My Hat - OMH

Happy 2017 my readers ...I know what you are thinking- girl it's March already !!! Well life in my new area is full of great times at the beach and stuff to do. Also I wanted to spend my son's summer vacation with him so I took a little time off super woman duty and did full time parent adulating .

For those of you who don't know much about me , my blogs are a dedication to my wonderful mother who now watches over me .

So as I went to write this blog I remembered a saying from her generation "Oh My Hat " in the old days way the equivalent of OMG or even WTF or Shut Up or  Shut The Door an exclamation really . I like the old ways that were classy and sorta chic . My hats are influenced by the era's of the 40's and 50's when things were made very well and to last. There was a beauty about them and style, just like my mum .

How the IAGBAM hats came about. I had been invited to a "high tea" - google it if you don't know what that is , for a 70th birthday , and thought to myself , "all the people around here dress up every party, what can I do for this one?" I really love and admire this woman so I wanted to make something that honoured her, something unique .

 So after a overwhelming response to that hat I decided to make a few more for the upcoming film clip I was making

 I am a passionate lover of the planet and with that I made some hats from upcycled bits and bobs(another of my mum's sayings ) from garage(yard) sales and second hand shops . Now  I used to make a lot of sculptures with skulls and after I stopped collecting skulls  I took the bones onto the hats.

I decided that it would be best to ease into my new community , not freak them out with my goth/punkness and real skulls  and it was time to move into a new style- I wanted a new theme . So this year I thought would be good to keep on the self love,  make every hat IAGBAM , as  I want each person who puts the hats on to be able to say I'm A Goddess Beautiful And Magnificent, ta da ! the hat label  IAGBAM is born. I had not long unpacked my cases when I got invited to another high tea to display my hats . So I frantically got to work and started hunting down new pieces as most of my materials are still in storage interstate! Head down bum up I began creating brand new pieces to display at  Bangalow Heritage House Cafe and Museum

Each hat in this series has a love heart , at least one if not more and the theme of the chandelier crystals are always present. The crystals are to bring in light so a little love and light - which people say but often do not embrace it. The crystals dangling on the side of the hats are a tribute to Australian history and the "aussie corkscrew" hat which they used to keep the flies away. Well  Violetnight is all about the beauty so it was time to bring beauty into the version of Australian culture , after all if you explore the Indigenous Dreamtime it is a constant , always changing. Also crystal hold a high vibration so let's get these hats pinging with good vibes I say .

Anyways  I have been sewing like crazy and making a series also influenced by the beauty of where I live now . I got some assistance from my dear friends modelling my latest creations,. blessings Millie and Darcy  I am so happy to have had a true couple that love each other and am so grateful for their support .

So introducing the series of love and light IAGBAM hats to make every wearer a goddess that they truely are . I have also been making some hats for  men - for they need to have some love and light too.

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